Surah Al-Baqarah Ayat 221 to 225 Tafseer: Roman Urdu & English | Sirat-ul-Iman Official
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Brief commentary on Surah Al-Baqarah, Verses 221 to 225, regarding family ethics and social guidelines.{ بِسۡمِ ٱللَّهِ ٱلرَّحۡمَـٰنِ ٱلرَّحِیمِ } |
Introduction
Assalam-o-Alaikum doston, Sirat-ul-Iman Official par khush-amdeed. Aaj ki is post mein hum Surah Al-Baqarah ki Ayat number 221 se 225 ki mukhtasar aur asaan tafseer parhenge. In ayaat mein Allah Ta'ala ne insani zindagi ke nihayat ahem pehluon, khususan Nikah (Marriage), Azdawaji talluqaat (Family life), aur Qasmon (Oaths) ke bare mein wazay ahkaamat bayan farmaye hain. Islam sirf ibadaat ka naam nahi balkay ye humein ek behtareen samaj (society) banane ka rasta dikhata hai. In ayaat ko samajhna hum sab ke liye isliye zaroori hai taake hum apne gharaylu masail ko Quran-o-Sunnat ki roshni mein hal kar sakein. Aaiye, in muqaddas ayaat ka tarjuma aur unki tafseer niche di gayi post mein dekhte hain. Introduction (English)Welcome to Sirat-ul-Iman Official. In today's blog post, we are continuing our series with the Tafseer of Surah Al-Baqarah, Verses 221 to 225. These verses provide fundamental guidelines regarding Islamic social and family ethics. They cover essential topics such as the criteria for marriage, maintaining purity in marital life, and the sanctity of taking oaths in the name of Allah. Understanding these teachings is crucial for every believer to lead a life according to the will of Allah and to maintain harmony within the family unit. Below is the simplified explanation and commentary of these blessed verses for your spiritual growth and guidance.  Ayat 221وَ لَا تَنْكِحُوا الْمُشْرِكٰتِ حَتّٰى یُؤْمِنَّؕ-وَ لَاَمَةٌ مُّؤْمِنَةٌ خَیْرٌ مِّنْ مُّشْرِكَةٍ وَّ لَوْ اَعْجَبَتْكُمْۚ-وَ لَا تُنْكِحُوا الْمُشْرِكِیْنَ حَتّٰى یُؤْمِنُوْاؕ-وَ لَعَبْدٌ مُّؤْمِنٌ خَیْرٌ مِّنْ مُّشْرِكٍ وَّ لَوْ اَعْجَبَكُمْؕ-اُولٰٓىٕكَ یَدْعُوْنَ اِلَى النَّارِ ۚۖ-وَ اللّٰهُ یَدْعُوْۤا اِلَى الْجَنَّةِ وَ الْمَغْفِرَةِ بِاِذْنِهٖۚ-وَ یُبَیِّنُ اٰیٰتِهٖ لِلنَّاسِ لَعَلَّهُمْ یَتَذَكَّرُوْنَ۠ اور شرک والی عورتوں سے نکاح نہ کرو جب تک مسلمان نہ ہوجائیں اور بیشک مسلمان لونڈی مشرکہ سے اچھی اگرچہ وہ تمہیں بھاتی ہو اور مشرکوں کے نکاح میں نہ دو جب تک وہ ایمان نہ لائیں اور بیشک مسلمان غلام مشرک سے اچھا اگرچہ وہ تمہیں بھاتا ہو، وہ دوزخ کی طرف بلاتے ہیں اور اللہ جنت اور بخشش کی طرف بلاتا ہے اپنے حکم سے اور اپنی آیتیں لوگوں کے لئے بیان کرتا ہے کہ کہیں وہ نصیحت مانیں |
Aur mushrik aurton se nikah na karo jab tak wo Musalman na ho jayen; aur beshak ek Musalman laundi (slave girl) azad mushrik aurat se behtar hai, khwah wo tumhe kitni hi pasand kyu na ho. Aur (apni aurton ko) mushrik mardon ke nikah mein na do jab tak wo iman na le ayen; aur beshak ek Musalman ghulam ek azad mushrik se behtar hai, khwah wo tumhe kitna hi pasand kyu na ho. Ye log dozakh ki taraf bulate hain, jabki Allah apne hukm se jannat aur maghfirat ki taraf bulata hai. Aur Allah apni ayatein logon ke liye wazay farmata hai taake wo naseehat hasil karein.
Do not marry unbelieving women until they believe; a believing slave woman is better than an unbelieving free woman, even though she may allure you. Nor marry your girls to unbelieving men until they believe; a believing slave is better than an unbeliever, even though he may allure you. They beckon you to the Fire, but Allah beckons by His grace to the Garden (of bliss) and forgiveness, and makes His Signs clear to mankind that they may celebrate His praise.
Ayat 222
وَ یَسْــٴَـلُوْنَكَ عَنِ الْمَحِیْضِؕ-قُلْ هُوَ اَذًىۙ-فَاعْتَزِلُوا النِّسَآءَ فِی الْمَحِیْضِۙ-وَ لَا تَقْرَبُوْهُنَّ حَتّٰى یَطْهُرْنَۚ-فَاِذَا تَطَهَّرْنَ فَاْتُوْهُنَّ مِنْ حَیْثُ اَمَرَكُمُ اللّٰهُؕ-اِنَّ اللّٰهَ یُحِبُّ التَّوَّابِیْنَ وَ یُحِبُّ الْمُتَطَهِّرِیْنَ
اور تم سے پوچھتے ہیں حیض کا حکم تم فرماؤ وہ ناپاکی ہے تو عورتوں سے الگ رہو حیض کے دنوں اور ان سے نزدیکی نہ کرو جب تک پاک نہ ہولیں پھر جب پاک ہوجائیں تو ان کے پاس جاؤ جہاں سے تمہیں اللہ نے حکم دیا بیشک اللہ پسند رکھتا ہے بہت توبہ کرنے والوں کو اور پسند رکھتا ہے ستھروں کو۔
Aur tum se puchte hain haiz (period) ka hukm, tum farmao wo napaki hai, toh aurton se alag raho haiz ke dinon mein aur un se nazdiki na karo jab tak paak na ho jayen. Phir jab paak ho jayen toh un ke paas jao jahan se tumhe Allah ne hukm diya. Beshak Allah pasand rakhta hai bahut tawbah karne walon ko aur pasand rakhta hai suthron (pakiza rehne walon) ko.
And they ask you about menstruation. Say, "It is an impurity, so keep away from women during menstruation and do not approach them until they are pure. And when they have purified themselves, then come to them from where Allah has ordained for you. Indeed, Allah loves those who are constantly repentant and loves those who purify themselves."
Ayat 223
نِسَآؤُكُمْ حَرْثٌ لَّكُمْ۪-فَاْتُوْا حَرْثَـكُمْ اَنّٰى شِئْتُمْ٘-وَ قَدِّمُوْا لِاَنْفُسِكُمْؕ-وَ اتَّقُوا اللّٰهَ وَ اعْلَمُوْۤا اَنَّكُمْ مُّلٰقُوْهُؕ-وَ بَشِّرِ الْمُؤْمِنِیْنَ
تمہاری عورتیں تمہارے لئے کھیتیاں ہیں ، تو آؤ اپنی کھیتی میں جس طرح چاہو اور اپنے بھلے کا کام پہلے کرو اور اللہ سے ڈرتے رہو اور جان رکھو کہ تمہیں اس سے ملنا ہے اور اے محبوب بشارت دو ایمان والوں کو۔
Tumhari aurtein tumhare liye khetiyan hain, toh aao apni kheti mein jis tarah chaho aur apne bhale ka kaam pehle karo aur Allah se darte raho aur jaan rakho ke tumhe us se milna hai aur ae Mahboob basharat do iman walon ko.
Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how ye will; but do some good act for your souls beforehand; and fear Allah, and know that ye are to meet Him (in the Hereafter), and give these good tidings to those who believe.
Ayat 224
وَ لَا تَجْعَلُوا اللّٰهَ عُرْضَةً لِّاَیْمَانِكُمْ اَنْ تَبَرُّوْا وَ تَتَّقُوْا وَ تُصْلِحُوْا بَیْنَ النَّاسِؕ-وَ اللّٰهُ سَمِیْعٌ عَلِیْمٌ
اور اللہ کو اپنی قَسَموں کا نشانہ نہ بنالو کہ احسان اور پرہیزگاری او ر لوگوں میں صلح کرنے کی قسم کرلو اور اللہ سنتا جانتا ہے۔
Aur Allah ko apni qasmon ka nishana na banalo ke ihsan aur parhezgari aur logon mein sulah karne ki qasam karlo aur Allah sunta janta hai.
And do not make Allah's name an excuse in your oaths against doing good and acting righteously and making peace between people. And Allah is Hearing and Knowing.
Ayat 225
لَا یُؤَاخِذُكُمُ اللّٰهُ بِاللَّغْوِ فِیْۤ اَیْمَانِكُمْ وَ لٰـكِنْ یُّؤَاخِذُكُمْ بِمَا كَسَبَتْ قُلُوْبُكُمْؕ-وَ اللّٰهُ غَفُوْرٌ حَلِیْمٌ
اللہ تمہیں نہیں پکڑ تا ان قَسَموں میں جو بے ارادہ زبان سے نکل جائے ہاں اس پر گرفت فرماتا ہے جو کام تمہارے دل نے کئے اور اللہ بخشنے والا حلم والا ہے۔
Allah tumhe nahi pakarta un qasmon mein jo be-irada zaban se nikal jayein, han us par giraft farmata hai jo kaam tumhare dil ne kiye aur Allah bakhshne wala hilm wala hai.
Allah does not impose blame upon you for what is unintentional in your oaths, but He imposes blame upon you for what your hearts have earned. And Allah is Forgiving and Forbearing.
Surah Al-Baqarah: Ayat 221 se 225 ki Tafseer
In ayaat mein Allah Ta'ala ne musalmano ko nikah, pakizgi aur qasmon ke bare mein hidayat di hain.
1. Mushrik se Nikah ki Manahat (Ayat 221)
Is ayat mein Allah Ta'ala ne saaf mana farmaya hai ke koi momin mard kisi mushrik aurat se aur koi momin aurat kisi mushrik mard se nikah na kare.Asal Paigam:
Iman sab se barri dolat hai. Ek momin ghulam ya laundi (jis ke paas iman ho) kisi bare mushrik se kahin behtar hai, chahe wo mushrik dekhne mein kitna hi acha ya ameer kyun na lage.
Tafseeli Nuqta: Baham shadiyon ka rujhan barhta ja raha hai, khaas tor par in elaqon mein jahan kuffar-o-muslim ikhatte rehte hain. Maghribi tarz-e-zindagi (Western lifestyle) neez larkon aur larkiyon ki makhloot (mixed) taleem se jahan aur tabahiyan machi hui hain aur be-hayai ka tufan umand aya hai, wahin baham aisi haram shadiyon ke zariye zindagi bhar ki bad-kari ke silsile bhi jari-o-sari hain.
Zimmadari:
Is tamam surat-e-haal ka wabal un larkay larkiyon par bhi hai jo is mein mulawwis hain, aur un waldain par bhi jo raazi khushi aulad ko is jahannum mein jhonktay hain, aur un hukmarano aur sahib-e-ikhtiyar par bhi hai jo aisi taleem ko rawaj detay hain ya bawajood-e-qudrat is ka insidaad (rok-tham) karne ki koshish nahi karte. Yunhi iska wabal un naam-nihad jahil danishwaro, liberal-ism ke mareezon aur deen dushman qalam-kaaron par bhi hai jo is ki tayeed-o-himayat mein waraq siyah karte hain (yani ghalat likhte hain).
Wajah:
Mushrik log jahannam ki taraf bulate hain, jabke iman wala rasta jannat ki taraf le jata hai.
2. Haiz (Menses) aur Pakizgi ke Ahkaamat (Ayat 222)
Logon ne Nabi Kareem ﷺ se haiz ke bare mein pucha toh Allah ne farmaya ke ye ek "Aziyat" (takleef deh halat) hai.Shan-e-Nuzool:
Arab ke log Yahudiyon aur Majoosiyon ki tarah haiz wali aurat se bohot nafrat karte thay, unke sath khana peena aur ek makan mein rehna unhein gawara na tha balkay ye shiddat yahan tak pahunch gayi thi ke un ki taraf dekhna aur un se kalam karna bhi haram samajhte thay, jabke Isaiyon ka tarz-e-amal iske bilkul bar-aks tha yani wo in dino mein aurton se milap mein bohot zyada mubalgha karte thay. Musalmano ne Huzoor ﷺ se hukm daryaft kiya toh ye ayat nazil hui.
Sharai Hukm:
Aur ifrat-o-tafreet (shiddat aur laparwahi) ki rahein chor kar aetidal ki taleem farmayi gayi aur bata diya gaya ke haiz ki halat mein aurton se hum-bistari (intercourse) karna haram hai. Chunke ye Quran ki wazeh ayat se sabit hai, lihaza aisi halat mein jamaa jaiz janna kufar hai aur haram samajh kar kar liya toh sakht gunahgar hua, is par tauba farz hai.
Mazeed Hidayat:
Yunhi naf se lekar ghutne ke niche tak ki jagah se luzzat hasil karna mana hai. Baqi un se guftagu karna, un ke sath khana peena hatta ke unka jotha khana bhi jaiz hai, gunah nahi. Is ayat se ye bhi maloom hua ke aurat ke pichle maqam mein jamaa karna haram hai kyunke wo bhi gandagi ka maqam hai.
Paki ka Matlab:
{Fa-iza Tatahharn: Phir jab khoob pak ho jayein.} Khoob pak hone se murad ayyam-e-haiz khatam hone ke baad ghusl kar lena hai.
Zaroori Masail:
Haiz ki kam se kam muddat 3 din aur zyada se zyada 10 din hai.
Haiz ke dino mein aurat ke liye Tilawat-e-Quran, Namaz, Roza, Masjid mein dakhla, Quran ko chuna aur Khana Kaaba ka tawaf haram ho jata hai.
Zikr-o-Darood wagaira mein koi harj nahi, albata is ke liye wudu kar lena mustahab hai.
Ayyam-e-haiz ke rozon ki qaza aurat par lazmi hai jabke namazein maaf hain.
Allah ki Mohabbat:
Allah Ta'ala farmate hain ke "Besahk Allah Ta'ala tauba karne walon aur pak-saaf rehne walon se mohabbat karta hai."
3. Kheti ki Misal aur Taqwa (Ayat 223)
Allah Ta'ala ne biwiyon ko kheti se tashbeeh di hai.
Tafseer:
Iska matlab ye hai ke jaise kisan apni kheti mein jata hai taake fasal hasil kare, waise hi nikah ka asal maqsad sirf nafsani khwahish puri karna nahi balki nek nasal (aulad) paida karna hona chahiye.
Tariqa-e-Zindagi:
Allah ne farmaya ke tum apni kheti mein jis tarah chaho aao (yani mian-biwi ke talluqaat ke mukhtalif tarike), magar shart ye hai ke wo tariqa "Fitrati" ho.
Haram Kaam:
Is ayat se wazeh hota hai ke aurat ke pichle maqam (anal sex) mein jamaa karna sakht haram hai kyunke wo gandagi ka maqam hai, kheti (aulad paida hone) ka nahi.
Agay ke liye Tyari:
"Apne liye agay nek aamaal bhejo" yani mian-biwi ka talluqa bhi Allah ki ibadat ban sakta hai agar niyat nek ho aur Allah se darte raho.
4. Allah ke Naam ki Qasmein (Ayat 224-225)
In ayaat mein qasmon ke bare mein do ahem baatein samjhayi gayi hain:
Ghalat Istemal:
{Aur apni qasmon ki wajah se Allah ke naam ko aar (dhaal) na bana lo.} Hazrat Abdullah bin Rawaha (R.A) ne qasam khai thi ke main apne behnoi Hazrat Numan bin Bashir (R.A) se na kalam karunga, na unke ghar jaunga aur na unke mukhalifeen se unki sulah karaunga. Jab iske mutalliq un se kaha jata toh wo kehte ke main qasam kha chuka hoon is liye ye kaam kar hi nahi sakta. Is par ye ayat nazil hui aur nek kaam na karne ki qasam khane se mana kar diya gaya.
Neki se baaz rehne ki qasam ka hal:
Agar koi shakhs neki se baaz rehne ki qasam kha lay toh usay chahiye ke qasam ko pura na kare balkay wo nek kaam kare aur qasam ka kafara day. Rasool Akram ﷺ ne farmaya: Jis shakhs ne kisi amr (kaam) par qasam khai phir maloom hua ke khair aur behtari is ke khilaf mein hai toh chahiye ke us amr-e-khair ko kar lay aur qasam ka kafara day.
Laghw (Be-irada) Qasam:
{Aur Allah un qasmon mein tumhari girift nahi farmayega jo be-irada zaban se nikal jaye.} Qasam teen tarah ki hoti hai:
Laghw:
Ye wo hai ke kisi cheez ko apne khayal mein sahi jaan kar qasam khai aur dar-haqiqat wo is ke khilaf ho. Ye maaf hai aur is par kafara nahi.
Ghamoos:
Ye ye hai ke kisi guzri hui cheez par jaan-boojh kar jhooti qasam khaye. Ye haram hai aur ahadees mein is par sakht wa'eedain (warnings) hain.
Munaqida:
Ye ye hai ke kisi ayenda (future) ki cheez par qasam khaye. Is qasam ko agar toray toh baaz surton mein gunahgar bhi hai aur kafara bhi lazmi hota hai.
Nasihat:
Sadr-ush-Sharia Mufti Amjad Ali Aazmi (R.A) farmate hain: "Qasam khana jaiz hai magar jahan tak ho kami behtar hai aur baat baat par qasam khani nahi chahiye aur baaz logon ne qasam ko 'takiya kalam' bana rakha hai ke qasad-o-be-qasad zaban se jari hoti hai aur iska bhi khayal nahi rakhte ke baat sachi hai ya jhooti, ye sakht mayoob hai."
Tafseer of Surah Al-Baqarah: Verses 221 to 225
In these verses, Allah (SWT) provides guidance to Muslims regarding marriage, purity, and the sanctity of oaths.
1. Prohibition of Marriage with Idolaters (Verse 221)
In this verse, Allah (SWT) clearly forbids a believing man from marrying an idolatrous woman and a believing woman from marrying an idolatrous man.
The Core Message:
Faith (Iman) is the greatest wealth. A believing slave (who possesses faith) is far better than a prominent idolater, no matter how attractive or wealthy that idolater may appear.
A Detailed Point:
There is a growing trend of inter-religious marriages, especially in regions where Muslims and non-Muslims live together. The Western lifestyle and co-education systems have led to various moral declines and a surge in immodesty. Consequently, prohibited marriages are taking place, leading to a lifetime of sinful relationships.
Responsibility:
The burden of this situation lies upon the young men and women involved, the parents who willingly push their children into this "hellfire," and the rulers or authorities who promote such education or fail to prevent it despite having the power to do so. Similarly, it falls upon the so-called ignorant intellectuals, those influenced by extreme liberalism, and anti-religious writers who support such practices.
Reason:
Idolaters invite people toward the Hellfire, whereas the path of a believer leads toward Paradise.
2. Rulings on Menstruation (Haiz) and Purity (Verse 222)
People asked the Prophet ﷺ about menstruation. Allah revealed that it is a "discomfort" (a painful or difficult state).
Background (Shan-e-Nuzool):
The Arabs, like the Jews and Magians of that time, used to show great hatred toward women during their periods. They would not eat with them or stay in the same house. This intensity reached a point where they considered looking at them or speaking to them as forbidden. Conversely, Christians went to the other extreme, engaging in excessive intimacy during these days. When Muslims asked the Prophet ﷺ for a ruling, this verse was revealed to teach moderation.
Shari'a Ruling:
Moderation was taught by avoiding both extremes. It was established that physical intimacy (intercourse) with women during their periods is forbidden (Haram). Since this is proven by a clear Quranic verse, considering it permissible is an act of disbelief (Kufr), and doing it while knowing it is forbidden is a severe sin for which repentance is obligatory.
Further Guidance:
It is also forbidden to derive physical pleasure from the area between the navel and the knees. However, talking to them, eating with them, and even consuming their leftovers is permissible and not a sin. This verse also clarifies that anal intercourse is forbidden as it is a place of impurity.
Meaning of Purity:
{Until they are pure}: This refers to the woman performing a full ritual bath (Ghusl) after her menstrual cycle ends.
Essential Rules:
The minimum duration of menstruation is 3 days, and the maximum is 10 days.
During these days, reciting the Quran, praying (Salah), fasting, entering a mosque, touching the Quran, and performing Tawaf of the Kaaba are forbidden.
There is no harm in reciting Dhikr or Durood, though it is recommended to be in a state of Wudu for it.
Fasting missed during menstruation must be made up, while prayers are excused.
Allah's Love:
Allah (SWT) says, "Truly, Allah loves those who turn to Him in repentance and loves those who keep themselves pure."
3. The Example of the Tilth and Piety (Verse 223)
Allah (SWT) has compared wives to tilth (a field for sowing).
Explanation:
Just as a farmer goes to his field to obtain a harvest, the true purpose of marriage is not merely the fulfillment of carnal desires but the raising of a righteous generation (children).
Way of Life:
Allah says you may approach your tilth however you wish (referring to different positions for intimacy), provided the method is "natural."
Forbidden Act:
This verse makes it clear that anal intercourse is strictly forbidden because it is a place of impurity and not the place of "tilth" (procreation).
Preparing for the Future:
"And send (good deeds) before you for yourselves." This means that the relationship between husband and wife can also become an act of worship if the intention is righteous and one fears Allah.
4. Oaths in the Name of Allah (Verses 224-225)
Two important points regarding oaths are explained in these verses:
Misuse:
{And do not make Allah's name an excuse in your oaths to prevent you from doing good.} Hazrat Abdullah bin Rawaha (R.A.) once swore that he would not speak to his brother-in-law, Hazrat Numan bin Bashir (R.A.), nor go to his house, nor reconcile him with his opponents. When he was asked about it, he would say, "I have taken an oath, so I cannot do these things." This verse was revealed to forbid swearing oaths against doing good deeds.
Solution for Oaths Against Good:
If someone swears an oath to refrain from a good deed, they should not fulfill that oath. Instead, they should do the good deed and pay the expiation (Kaffarah) for the oath. The Prophet ﷺ said: "If someone takes an oath and then finds that something else is better, he should do what is better and expiate for his oath."
Unintentional (Laghw) Oaths:
{Allah will not call you to account for what is unintentional in your oaths.} There are three types of oaths:
Laghw (Unintentional):
When someone swears an oath believing something to be true, but in reality, it is not. This is pardoned and requires no expiation.
Ghamoos (False):
Knowingly swearing a false oath regarding a past event. This is strictly forbidden (Haram) and carries severe warnings in Hadith.
Munaqida (Binding):
Swearing an oath regarding a future action. If this is broken, one is sinful in certain cases and expiation is mandatory.
Advice:
Sadr-ush-Sharia Mufti Amjad Ali Aazmi (R.A.) states: "Taking an oath is permissible, but it is better to avoid it as much as possible. One should not swear an oath over every little thing. Some people have made oaths a habit in their speech without considering whether the statement is true or false; this is highly undesirable."
🔑 Key Points
1. Iman Ki Ahmiyat: Nikah Aur Mohabbat
Allah ne is ayat mein waziya kar diya hai ke Kafir aurto se Nikah jaiz nahi hai, chahe wo aapko kitni hi pasand hon, maal-dar hon ya khubsurat. Nikah ke liye Iman hona sab se zaroori shart hai.
Ahle-Kitab Ka Masla:
Yaad rakhein ke Yahoodi aur Isai aurton se nikah (mard ke liye) ho sakta hai kyunke wo Ahle-Kitab hain, lekin na Musalman larki kisi kafir larke se shadi kar sakti hai, aur na hi Musalman larka kisi kafir larki se shadi kar sakta hai.
Nikah Ek Ibadat:
Nikah hamare Nabi ﷺ ki sunnat hai aur nek niyat se nikah karna bohot bari ibadat hai. Ibadat tabhi banegi jab dono larka aur larki mein Iman hoga.
Mohabbat Ki Qurbani:
Agar kisi larka ya larki ko mohabbat ho gayi hai magar dono mein se koi ek Muslim nahi hai, toh aapko apni mohabbat chorni hogi. Jis cheez ki ijazat Islam nahi deta, wo kaam aap nahi kar sakte. Jab aap Allah ki raza ke liye kuch chorte hain, toh Allah aapko sabar, himmat aur hausla deta hai aur us se bhatreen nawazta hai. Allah ka wada sacha hai ke jab Woh kuch leta hai toh behtar deta hai.
Halal Rasta:
Ek rasta ye bhi hai ke agar koi kafir hai toh pehle usay Musalman kiya jaye, phir nikah ho. Aaj kal ghair-mazhab ka concept is liye barh gaya hai kyunke ghair-mardo aur aurton se hansi-mazak aur betaklufi barh gayi hai. Universities aur jobs mein parheiz nahi hoti, sirf be-hayai hoti hai. Hamein aise kamo se bachna chahiye jis se Allah aur Uska Mehboob ﷺ naraz hon.
2. Aetidal (Moderation): Haiz (Periods) Aur Aurat Ka Maqam
Islam ne haiz ke mutalliq Yahudiyat ki sakhti aur Isaiyat ki laparwahi ko khatam kar ke darmiyana rasta dikhaya hai.
Ghalat Nazriyat Ka Khatma:
Zamana-e-jahiliyat mein haiz wali aurton ko bura samjha jata tha, magar ye baatein fazool hain. Ye Allah ka nizam hai jo aurton mein rakha gaya hai.
Supportive Role:
Haiz na-paki zaroor hai magar is mein aurat ka koi qasoor nahi. Is halat mein sex (intercourse) ki ijazat nahi hai, lekin biwi se door na rahein. Unke paas bethein, mohabbat karein, care karein aur unhein comfort dein. Periods ka phase mushkil hota hai, cramps aur hormonal changes ki wajah se gussa aata hai, is waqt aurat ko husband ki support ki zaroorat hoti hai.
Sunnat-e-Rasool ﷺ:
Amma Ayesha (R.A) farmati hain ke ek raat unhein haiz aa gaya toh Huzoor ﷺ ne unhein laungoti di aur apni Chadar-e-Mubarak mein apne sath kar liya. Jab duniya ki sab se pak hasti ﷺ is halat mein biwi ke paas ja sakti hai, toh humein bhi is par ghor karna chahiye.
3. Pakizgi Se Mohabbat
Allah Ta'ala un logon ko pasand karta hai jo gunahon se Tauba karte hain aur apne jism-o-rooh ko paak-saaf rakhte hain.
4. Nikah Ka Maqsad: Sex Aur Nek Nasal
Mian-biwi ke talluqaat ka asal maqsad sirf nafsani sukoon nahi balki ek Nek Nasal ki parwarish honi chahiye.
Sawab Ka Kaam:
Biwi ke paas achi niyat se jana bhi ibadat hai. Sahaba ne pucha ke "Hum toh khwahish ki wajah se jate hain, toh ibadat kaisi?" Huzoor ﷺ ne farmaya ke kyunke tumne zina nahi kiya balki halal rasta chuna, is liye Allah is par sawab deta hai.
Aulad Ki Niyat:
Sirf khwahish ke liye na jayein balki ye niyat rakhein ke Allah nek aulad de jo Deen ka kaam kare aur aapke liye Sadka-e-Jariya bane. Niyat dil ke irade ka naam hai, aur jab niyat achi ho toh sawab double ho jata hai.
5. Fitrati Hudood: Sex Ka Tariqa Aur Softness
Allah ne Quran mein har cheez waziya kar di hai. Biwi mard ke liye kheti ki tarah hai, aap agle muqam se let kar, beth kar ya kharay ho kar jaise chahein sex karein, magar pichle muqam (anal sex) se sakhti se mana kiya gaya hai kyunke wo gandagi ka rasta hai.
Gentle Behavior:
Allah ne ijazat di hai iska matlab ye nahi ke insane pagal ho jaye aur bht "roughly" sex kare ke biwi se bardasht na ho. Sex mein hamesha gentle aur soft rahein.
First Night Comfort:
Pehli raat larki ke liye mushkil aur yaadgar hoti hai, larko ko chahiye ke larki ko comfort dein aur mohabbat ka izhar karein. Aap pehli raat hi sukoon dein taake mohabbat peda ho.
Mardomangi Ki Haqiqat:
Sex ke masail ke liye consultation lein ya Islamic books parhein. Log kehte hain "puri taqat istemal karo warna kamzor samjhay jaoge," ye fazool baatein hain. Asal mardangi wo hai jo biwi ko khush rakh sake aur uski izzat kare. Bed par chikha nikalne se mardangi show nahi hoti balki nuqsan hota hai aur biwi mohabbat nahi kar pati.
Satisfaction:
Filmon ko dekh kar ulta-seedha sex na karein balki Islam ke mutabiq chalein. Biwi ki satisfaction ka zaroor khayal rakhein, sirf apne bare mein na sochein.
6. Qasam Ki Hifazat
Allah ke naam ki qasmon ko nek kamo se rukne ka bahana nahi banana chahiye. Hamesha soch samajh kar bolna chahiye, magar agar ghalat qasam kha li hai toh maafi mang kar usey tor dein, Kafara dein aur nek kaam mein dair na karein.
7. Niyat Aur Pakar
Allah un qasmon par saza nahi deta jo adat ke taur par be-irada zaban se nikal jayein (Laghw), balki un par pakar karta hai jo sachay dil ke irade se khai jayein.
8. Zaban Ki Ehtiyat
Baat baat par qasam khana (Takiya-e-Kalam) buri adat hai, is se parhez karein. Allah ke naam ki qasam hamesha sachi honi chahiye, jhooti qasam kisi halat mein na khayein.
🔑 Key Points( English)
1. The Importance of Faith: Marriage and Love
Allah makes it clear in this verse that marrying idolatrous women is not permissible, regardless of how much you may like them, or how wealthy or beautiful they are. Faith (Iman) is the most essential condition for marriage.
The Issue of People of the Book:
Remember that a Muslim man can marry Jewish or Christian women because they are "People of the Book," but a Muslim woman cannot marry a non-Muslim man, nor can a Muslim man marry a polytheistic/atheist woman.
Marriage as Worship:
Marriage is the Sunnah of our Prophet ﷺ. Getting married with a righteous intention is a great act of worship. However, it only becomes true worship when both the man and the woman possess Faith.
The Sacrifice of Love:
If a boy and girl fall in love but one of them is not Muslim, you must give up that love for the sake of Allah. You cannot do what Islam does not permit. When you leave something for the sake of Allah, He grants you patience, courage, and strength, and blesses you with something far better. Allah’s promise is true: when He takes something away, He compensates with the best.
The Halal Way:
One way is for the non-Muslim partner to embrace Islam first, then marry. Nowadays, the concept of "inter-faith" attraction has increased because of free mixing and informal behavior between genders. In universities and workplaces, there is often a lack of modesty. We must avoid actions that displease Allah and His Beloved Prophet ﷺ.
2. Moderation (Aetidal): Menstruation (Periods) and the Status of Women
Islam has removed the harshness of Judaism and the negligence of Christianity regarding menstruation, showing instead a middle path.
Ending False Beliefs:
In the days of ignorance (Jahiliyah), women in their periods were considered "bad" or "untouchable," but these ideas are baseless. This is a natural system created by Allah for women.
Supportive Role:
While menstruation involves ritual impurity, it is not the woman's fault. During this state, intercourse is not allowed, but do not distance yourself from your wife. Sit with her, show love, care for her, and provide comfort. The period phase is difficult due to cramps and hormonal changes; this is when a woman needs her husband's support the most.
Sunnah of the Prophet ﷺ:
Mother Ayesha (R.A) narrated that once she got her period at night, the Prophet ﷺ gave her a cloth to use and drew her close to him under his own blessed cloak. When the purest personality in the world ﷺ stayed close to his wife in this state, we should also reflect on this.
3. Love for Purity
Allah Ta'ala loves those who repent for their sins and keep their bodies and souls pure and clean.
4. The Purpose of Marriage: Intimacy and Righteous Offspring
The real purpose of the relationship between husband and wife is not just carnal peace but the upbringing of a Righteous Generation.
An Act of Reward:
Approaching one's wife with a good intention is also an act of worship. The Sahaba asked, "O Messenger of Allah ﷺ, we go to our wives out of desire, so how is it worship?" The Prophet ﷺ replied that because you chose the Halal way instead of committing adultery (Zina), Allah grants a reward for it.
Intention for Children:
Do not engage solely for desire; have the intention that Allah grants you righteous children who serve the Deen and become a "Sadaqah Jariyah" (ongoing charity) for you. Intention is the name of the heart's resolve, and when the intention is good, the reward is doubled.
5. Natural Boundaries: Methods of Intimacy and Softness
Allah has clarified everything in the Quran. Wives are like "tilth" (fields) for men; you may engage in intimacy from the front while lying down, sitting, or standing as you wish, but anal sex is strictly forbidden because it is a path of impurity.
Gentle Behavior:
Just because Allah gave permission does not mean a man should lose control or be so "rough" that it becomes unbearable for the wife. Always remain gentle and soft during intimacy.
First Night Comfort:
The first night is difficult yet memorable for a girl. Men should provide comfort and express deep love. Provide such peace and comfort on the first night that love begins to grow from that very day.
The Reality of Manhood:
Consult experts or read Islamic books regarding the etiquettes of intimacy. People often say "use all your strength or you'll be considered weak"—these are baseless talks. Real manhood is being able to keep your wife happy and respecting her. "Manhood" is not shown by causing pain or making someone scream in bed; that only causes harm and prevents the wife from loving you the way she should.
Satisfaction:
Do not engage in distorted intimacy by watching films; follow the path of Islam instead. Always care for your wife's satisfaction and do not just think about yourself.
6. Safeguarding Oaths
Do not use oaths in the name of Allah as an excuse to avoid doing good deeds. One should always speak thoughtfully, but if a wrong oath is taken, ask for forgiveness, break the oath, pay the Kaffarah (expiation), and do not delay in doing the good deed.
7. Intention and Accountability
Allah does not punish for oaths that slip off the tongue out of habit or unintentionally (Laghw), but He holds one accountable for those taken with a sincere heart and firm intention.
8. Guarding the Tongue
Swearing an oath over every little thing (Takiya-e-Kalam) is a bad habit; avoid it. An oath in Allah’s name must always be truthful; never swear a false oath under any circumstances.
❤️ Dil Ki Baat: Aik Mukhlisana Nasihat
"Zindagi mein sab se bari kamyabi paisa ya khubsurti nahi, balkay Allah ki raza hai. Hum aksar mohabbat ke naam par un rastaon par nikal parte hain jo deen humein mana karta hai, magar yaad rakhein, jo mohabbat Allah ki hudood (limits) tor kar hasil ki jaye, wo kabhi sukoon nahi deti. Jab aap Allah ke liye apni kisi bohot pyari cheez ya jazbe ko qurban karte hain, toh Allah aapka hath thaam leta hai. Wo aapko wo sabar aur sukoon deta hai jo duniya ki koi cheez nahi de sakti.
Mian-biwi ka rishta sirf dunya-dari nahi, balkay ek Muqaddas Ibadat hai. Agar is rishte mein ek dosre ki izzat, care aur softness (narmi) ho, toh ghar jannat ban jata hai. Mard ki asal mardangi uski taqat mein nahi, balkay apni biwi ko diye gaye Tahaffuz (protection) aur Izzat mein hai. Aur aurat ka asal sukoon uske Haya aur Iman mein hai.
Pehli Raat Aur Shohar Ka Kirdar:
Dekha jaye toh jab larki shadi kar ke aati hai, wo ek bohot emotional phase mein hoti hai, kyunke apna ghar, maa-baap, behen-bhai aur dost chorna asan nahi hota. Us raat jab shohar biwi ke paas jaye, toh ye baatein na kare ke 'meri maa ka khayal rakhna' ya 'meri behno ki izzat karna'—ye baatein baad mein bhi ho sakti hain. Agar aap biwi ke parents aur relatives ki izzat aur care karenge, toh wo automatically aapki family ki karegi.
Pehli Raat Ka Islamic Tariqa:
Islam humein har kaam mein behtareen raasta dikhata hai. Jab mian-biwi kamre mein jayein, toh sab se pehle shohar biwi ke dupatta ko jaye-namaz bana kar dono shukrana ke 2 nafil parhein, phir Allah se achi zindagi ki dua karein. Uske baad shohar biwi ke maathay (forehead) par hath rakh kar ye dua parhe:
بِسْمِ اللہِ اَللّٰہُمَّ جَنِّبْنَا الشَّیْطَانَ وَجَنِّبِ الشَّیْطَانَ مَا رَزَقْتَنَا ‘‘
اللہ کے نام کے ساتھ، اے اللہ!عَزَّوَجَلَّ، ہمیں شیطان سے محفوظ رکھنا اور اس کو بھی شیطان سے محفوظ رکھنا جو تو ہمیں عطا فرمائے۔
Ay Allah! Main Tujh se is ki bhalaee mangta hoon aur us ki fitrat ki bhalaee mangta hoon jis par Tu ne isay paida kiya hai. Aur Main is ki buraee se Teri panah mangta hoon aur us ki fitrat ki buraee se jis par Tu ne isay paida kiya hai.)
Phir biwi se pyar-mohabbat ki baat karein, usay relax karein aur phir suhbat (sex) se pehle ye dua parhein:
اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ خَيْرَهَا وَخَيْرَ مَا جَبَلْتَهَا عَلَيْهِ، وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّهَا وَمِنْ شَرِّ مَا جَبَلْتَهَا عَلَيْهِ
"اے اللہ! میں تجھ سے اس کی بھلائی مانگتا ہوں اور اس کی فطرت کی بھلائی مانگتا ہوں جس پر تو نے اسے پیدا کیا ہے۔ اور میں اس کی برائی سے تیری پناہ مانگتا ہوں اور اس کی فطرت کی برائی سے جس پر تو نے اسے پیدا کیا ہے۔"
Allah ke naam ke sath. Ay Allah! Humein shaitan se mehfooz rakhna aur us (aulad) ko bhi shaitan se mehfooz rakhna jo Tu humein ata farmaye.
Jab aap pehli raat itni mohabbat aur Allah ke naam se shuru karenge, toh dekhna phir mian-biwi mein kitni mohabbat paida hogi aur sukoon wali zindagi milegi.
Anjam-e-Kalam:
Bas itna yaad rakhein ke humara har amal, chahe wo logon ke samne ho ya band kamre mein, Allah dekh raha hai. Agar hum Islam ke bataye huye fitrati aur pakizah rastaon par chalein ge, toh hamari dunya bhi asan hogi aur akhirat bhi hamesha ke liye sanwar jaye gi. Allah hum sab ko deen ki sahi samajh aur us par amal ki taufiq de. Ameen."
❤️ A Word from the Heart: A Sincere Advice
"In life, the greatest success is not money or beauty, but rather the Pleasure of Allah. We often wander onto paths in the name of love that our faith forbids us from. But remember, love that is obtained by breaking the boundaries (limits) of Allah never brings true peace.
When you sacrifice a very dear thing or an emotion for the sake of Allah, He holds your hand. He grants you a level of patience and tranquility that nothing else in this world can provide.
The relationship between a husband and wife is not just a worldly matter; it is a Sacred Act of Worship. If there is respect, care, and softness (tenderness) in this relationship, the home becomes a paradise. A man’s true masculinity does not lie in his physical strength, but in the Protection and Respect he gives to his wife. And a woman’s true peace lies in her Modesty and Faith.
The First Night and the Husband’s Role:
When a girl comes home after marriage, she is in a very emotional phase because leaving her own home, parents, siblings, and friends is not easy. That night, when the husband goes to his wife, he should not start with things like 'take care of my mother' or 'respect my sisters'—these things can be discussed later. If you respect and care for the wife's parents and relatives, she will automatically do the same for your family.
The Islamic Way of the First Night:
Islam shows us the best path in every matter. When the husband and wife enter their room, the husband should first use the wife's veil (dupatta) as a prayer mat, and both should offer 2 units of voluntary prayer (Nafil) out of gratitude. Then, they should pray to Allah for a blessed life. After that, the husband should place his hand on the wife's forehead and recite this prayer:
بِسْمِ اللہِ اَللّٰہُمَّ جَنِّبْنَا الشَّیْطَانَ وَجَنِّبِ الشَّیْطَانَ مَا رَزَقْتَنَا
اللہ کے نام کے ساتھ، اے اللہ!عَزَّوَجَلَّ، ہمیں شیطان سے محفوظ رکھنا اور اس کو بھی شیطان سے محفوظ رکھنا جو تو ہمیں عطا فرمائے۔
(O Allah! I ask You for her goodness and the goodness of the nature upon which You have created her. And I seek Your protection from her evil and the evil of the nature upon which You have created her.)
Then, talk to your wife with love and affection, help her relax, and before intimacy (suhbat), recite this prayer:
اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ خَيْرَهَا وَخَيْرَ مَا جَبَلْتَهَا عَلَيْهِ، وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّهَا وَمِنْ شَرِّ مَا جَبَلْتَهَا عَلَيْهِ
"اے اللہ! میں تجھ سے اس کی بھلائی مانگتا ہوں اور اس کی فطرت کی بھلائی مانگتا ہوں جس پر تو نے اسے پیدا کیا ہے۔ اور میں اس کی برائی سے تیری پناہ مانگتا ہوں اور اس کی فطرت کی برائی سے جس پر تو نے اسے پیدا کیا ہے۔"
(In the name of Allah. O Allah! Keep us away from Satan, and keep Satan away from what (offspring) You bestow upon us.)
When you begin your first night with such love and in the name of Allah, you will see how much love is created between the husband and wife, and you will attain a life of true peace.
Conclusion:
Just remember that every action of ours, whether in front of people or behind closed doors, is being watched by Allah. If we follow the natural and pure paths shown by Islam, our worldly life will be easy, and our Hereafter will be improved forever. May Allah grant us all the true understanding of religion and the strength to act upon it. Ameen."
"Ibadat ka sahi maqsad aur niyat samajhne ke liye meri Ayat 21 wali post zaroor parhein."
https://siratulimanofficial.blogspot.com/2026/02/surah-al-baqarah-ayat-21-to-30-tafseer-kanzul-iman.html
"To understand the true purpose and intention of worship, read my post on Verse 21."
"Mushkil waqt mein Sabar aur Allah ki madad kaise hasil karein? Mazeed tafseel ke liye Ayat 153-155 parhein."
https://siratulimanofficial.blogspot.com/2026/02/surah-al-baqarah-ayat-153-to-163-sabr-mercy.html
"How to find patience and Allah's help during trials? Read Verses 153-155 for more details."
Shaitan ke dhokay se kaise bachein aur Halal o Pakiza rizq ki kya ahmiyat hai? Is ki tafseel ke liye meri Ayat 168 wali post zaroor parhein."
https://siratulimanofficial.blogspot.com/2026/02/surah-al-baqarah-ayat-164-to-173-translation.html
"How to protect yourself from Satan's deception and the importance of Halal and Pure sustenance? For details, read my post on Verse 168."
✨ Final Message
"Umeed hai ke Surah Al-Baqarah ki in ayaat ki tafseer ne aapke dilon ko roshan kiya hoga aur zindagi ke ahem muamlaat mein Islam ki hidayat ko samajhne mein madad di hogi.
Islam sirf ibadat ka naam nahi, balkay ye humein jeenay ka sahi dhang sikhata hai—chahe wo mian-biwi ke aapas ke rishtay hon, pakizgi ke ahkaamat hon ya zaban se nikalne wali qasmon ki hifazat. Jab hum apni zindagi ko Allah ki raza aur Nabi Kareem ﷺ ki sunnat ke mutabiq dhaal lete hain, toh mushkilat asan ho jati hain aur dilon ko wo sukoon milta hai jo duniya ki koi aur cheez nahi de sakti.
Allah hum sab ko in baaton par amal karne ki taufiq ata farmaye aur hamare gharon ko mohabbat aur sukoon ka gahwara banaye. Ameen."
(English):
"We hope that the Tafseer of these verses from Surah Al-Baqarah has enlightened your hearts and helped you understand Islamic guidance regarding important life matters.
Islam is not just about rituals; it is a complete way of life—whether it is the relationship between husband and wife, the rulings on purity, or safeguarding the oaths we take. When we align our lives with the pleasure of Allah and the Sunnah of the Prophet ﷺ, hardships become easy, and our hearts find a peace that nothing else in this world can provide.
May Allah grant us all the strength to act upon these teachings and make our homes abodes of love and tranquility. Ameen."
Zaroori baat
Is blog post mein diye gaye Quran-e-Kareem ke tarjuma aur tafseer ke liye Kanzul Iman aur Khazain-ul-Irfan se madad li gayi hai.Is ke sath sath, maine (Admin) is post mein diye gaye Key Points, Tafseer, aur Dil ki Baat (Reflections) mein apna zaati nuqta-e-nazar (Point of View) bhi shamil kiya hai. Maine ye tamam points apne dimagh aur samajh ke mutabiq likhay hain taake parhne walon ke liye in mubarak ayaat ka mafhoom mazeed asaan aur asar-andaz ho sake.
Video dars ke liye hum Maulana Abdul Habib Attari sahab ke mashkoor hain jin ka bayan is post ka ahem hissa hai."
Important Note
"The translation and Tafseer (explanation) provided in this post are based on the authentic sources of Kanzul Iman and Khazain-ul-Irfan.Additionally, I (the Admin) have incorporated my own personal point of view and insights into the Key Points, Tafseer, and Heartfelt Reflections. These sections have been written using my own thoughts and understanding to simplify the divine message for all readers. We are also grateful to Maulana Abdul Habib Attari for the insightful video lecture included in this post."
Tafseer provided in this post has been summarized for easy understanding, focusing on the core message of the verses.
Disclaimer
Is blog par faraham karda Quran-e-Pak ka tarjuma aur tafseer mustanad (authentic) zaraye se li gayi hai. Hum ne Arabic matan aur tarjume ki sehat ko barkarar rakhne ki poori koshish ki hai. Tahum, agar aapko kahin bhi typing ki ghalti ya koi aur khami nazar aaye, to baraye meharbani humein comment section mein batayein taake uski islah ki ja sake.
The Quranic translation and commentary provided on this blog are sourced from authentic references. While we have made every effort to ensure the accuracy of the Arabic text and its meanings, human errors in typing or formatting may occur. If you notice any mistakes, please inform us in the comment section so we can correct them immediately.
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Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
Q1: Kya ghais-Muslim se nikah jaiz hai?
Ans: Islam mein nikah ke liye Iman pehli shart hai. Mushrik mard ya aurat se nikah haram hai, jab tak wo Islam qabool na kar lein.
Q2: Haiz (Periods) ke doran biwi ke sath kaise rehna chahiye?
Ans: Is halat mein sex (intercourse) mana hai, lekin aap biwi ke paas beth sakte hain, unhein comfort de sakte hain aur unki care karna Sunnat se sabit hai.
Q3: What is the main purpose of marriage in Islam?
Ans: The primary purpose is to find spiritual peace, fulfill natural desires through Halal means, and raise a righteous generation (offspring).
Q4: Are accidental oaths punishable in Islam?
Ans: No, Allah does not hold you accountable for unintentional oaths (Laghw) that slip off the tongue by habit; He only judges the intentions of your heart.
Q5: इस्लाम में कसम (Oath) तोड़ने का क्या नियम है?
Ans: अगर किसी ने गलत कसम खा ली है, तो उसे तोड़कर अल्लाह से माफी मांगनी चाहिए और उसका 'कफ़ारा' (Expiation) अदा करना चाहिए।
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