Surah Al-Baqarah Ayat 233-235: Divine Guidance on Family Rights & Parenting (Part 1) Tafseer: Roman Urdu & English | Sirat-ul-Iman Official

Divine guidance on family rights, parenting, and social ethics. ✨📖

{ بِسۡمِ ٱللَّهِ ٱلرَّحۡمَـٰنِ ٱلرَّحِیمِ }

Introduction

Assalam-o-Alaikum! 🌟

Quran-e-Pak sirf ibadat ki kitab nahi, balkay hamari poori zindagi, khaas tor par hamare khāndāni nizam (family system) ke liye ek mukammal guide hai. Quran-e-Pak hamari zindagi ke har mod par rahnumai karta hai. Aaj ki post mein hum Surah Al-Baqarah ki Ayat 233 se 235 ke baare mein baat karenge. In ayaat mein Allah Ta'ala ne family life, bacchon ki parvarish aur rishton ke huqooq ko nihayat hakeemana tariqe se bayan kiya hai. 📖🌙
Chaliye, in ahem ayaat ka asaan tarjuma aur tafseer parhte hain taake hum apne gharon mein Quran ki roshni la saken.

Introduction (English)

The Holy Quran is not just a book for worship; it is a complete guide for our entire lives, especially for our family systems. It provides divine guidance at every turn of life. In today’s post, we will explore Surah Al-Baqarah, Verses 233 to 235. In these verses, Allah (SWT) has beautifully and wisely detailed family life, the upbringing of children, and the rights within relationships. 📖🌙
Let us dive into the simple translation and tafseer of these important verses to bring the light of the Quran into our homes.

Pichli Post Parhein: [Surah Al-Baqarah Ayat 226-232 ki tafseer parhna ke liye yahan click karein]

Ayat 233

وَ الْوَالِدٰتُ یُرْضِعْنَ اَوْلَادَهُنَّ حَوْلَیْنِ كَامِلَیْنِ لِمَنْ اَرَادَ اَنْ یُّتِمَّ الرَّضَاعَةَؕ-وَ عَلَى الْمَوْلُوْدِ لَهٗ رِزْقُهُنَّ وَ كِسْوَتُهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوْفِؕ-لَا تُكَلَّفُ نَفْسٌ اِلَّا وُسْعَهَاۚ-لَا تُضَآرَّ وَالِدَةٌۢ بِوَلَدِهَا وَ لَا مَوْلُوْدٌ لَّهٗ بِوَلَدِهٖۗ-وَ عَلَى الْوَارِثِ مِثْلُ ذٰلِكَۚ-فَاِنْ اَرَادَا فِصَالًا عَنْ تَرَاضٍ مِّنْهُمَا وَ تَشَاوُرٍ فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَیْهِمَاؕ-وَ اِنْ اَرَدْتُّمْ اَنْ تَسْتَرْضِعُوْۤا اَوْلَادَكُمْ فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَیْكُمْ اِذَا سَلَّمْتُمْ مَّاۤ اٰتَیْتُمْ بِالْمَعْرُوْفِؕ-وَ اتَّقُوا اللّٰهَ وَ اعْلَمُوْۤا اَنَّ اللّٰهَ بِمَا تَعْمَلُوْنَ بَصِیْرٌ

اور مائیں دودھ پلائیں اپنے بچوں کو پورے دو برس اس کے لئے جو دودھ کی مدت پوری کرنی چاہے اور جس کا بچہ ہے اس پر عورتوں کا کھانا پہننا ہے حسب دستور کسی جان پر بوجھ نہ رکھا جائے گا مگر اس کے مقدور بھر ماں کو ضرر نہ دیا جائے اس کے بچہ سے اور نہ اولاد والے کو اس کی اولاد سے یا ماں ضرر نہ دے اپنے بچہ کو اور نہ اولاد والا اپنی اولاد کو اور جو باپ کا قائم مقام ہے اس پر بھی ایسا ہی واجب ہے پھر اگر ماں باپ دونوں آپس کی رضا اور مشورے سے دودھ چھڑانا چاہیں تو ان پر گناہ نہیں اور اگر تم چاہو کہ دائیوں سے اپنے بچوں کو دودھ پلواؤ تو بھی تم پر مضائقہ نہیں جب کہ جو دینا ٹھہرا تھا بھلائی کے ساتھ انہیں ادا کردو، اور اللہ سے ڈرتے رہو اور جان رکھو کہ اللہ تمہارے کام دیکھ رہا ہے۔

Aur maaein apne bacchon ko poore do baras tak doodh pilayein, ye us shakhs ke liye hai jo doodh pilane ki muddat poori karna chahe. Aur jis ka baccha hai (yaani waalid) uske zimme dastoor ke mutabiq un maon ka khana aur kapra hai. Kisi jaan par uski taaqat se zyada bojh nahi dala jata. Na maa ko uske bacche ki wajah se nuqsan puhanchaya jaye aur na baap ko uske bacche ki wajah se. Aur waarish par bhi aisi hi zimmedari hai. Phir agar wo dono (maa baap) apni razamandi aur mashware se doodh chhurana chahein to un par koi gunah nahi. Aur agar tum apni aulad ko kisi dai se doodh pulwane ka irada karo to tum par koi gunah nahi, bashart-e-ke tum wo muawza jo tay kiya tha, bhalai ke sath ada kar do. Aur Allah se darte raho aur jaan lo ke jo kuch tum karte ho Allah usay dekh raha hai.

And mothers shall suckle their children for two whole years; (that is) for those who wish to complete the term of suckling. And on the father is the mothers’ provision and their clothing according to what is reasonable. No person shall have a burden laid on him greater than he can bear. No mother shall be treated unfairly on account of her child, nor father on account of his child. And on the (father’s) heir is a duty like that. Then if they both desire weaning through mutual consent and consultation, there is no blame upon them. And if you wish to have your children suckled by a wet-nurse, there is no blame upon you as long as you pay what you agreed to give in a reasonable manner. And fear Allah and know that Allah is All-Seer of what you do.

Ayat 234

وَ الَّذِیْنَ یُتَوَفَّوْنَ مِنْكُمْ وَ یَذَرُوْنَ اَزْوَاجًا یَّتَرَبَّصْنَ بِاَنْفُسِهِنَّ اَرْبَعَةَ اَشْهُرٍ وَّ عَشْرًاۚ-فَاِذَا بَلَغْنَ اَجَلَهُنَّ فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَیْكُمْ فِیْمَا فَعَلْنَ فِیْۤ اَنْفُسِهِنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوْفِؕ-وَ اللّٰهُ بِمَا تَعْمَلُوْنَ خَبِیْرٌ

اور تم میں جو مریں اور بیبیاں چھوڑیں وہ چار مہینے دس دن اپنے آپ کو روکے رہیں تو جب ان کی عدت پوری ہو جائے تو اے والیوتم پر مواخذہ نہیں اس کام میں جو عورتیں اپنے معاملہ میں موافق شرع کریں اور اللہ کو تمہارے کاموں کی خبر ہے۔

Aur tum mein se jo log wafat pa jayein aur biwiyaan chhor jayein, to wo aurtein apne aap ko chaar mahine aur das din tak roke rakhein. Phir jab un ki iddat poori ho jaye to wo dastoor ke mutabiq apne liye jo bhi faisla karein, us par tum par koi muakhza (gunah) nahi. Aur Allah tumhare tamam aamal se khoob waqif hai.

And those of you who die and leave widows behind, such widows shall wait four months and ten days. Then when they have fulfilled their term (Iddat), there is no blame on you for what they do for themselves according to the law. And Allah is well-acquainted with what you do.

Ayat 235

وَ لَا جُنَاحَ عَلَیْكُمْ فِیْمَا عَرَّضْتُمْ بِهٖ مِنْ خِطْبَةِ النِّسَآءِ اَوْ اَكْنَنْتُمْ فِیْۤ اَنْفُسِكُمْؕ-عَلِمَ اللّٰهُ اَنَّكُمْ سَتَذْكُرُوْنَهُنَّ وَ لٰـكِنْ لَّا تُوَاعِدُوْهُنَّ سِرًّا اِلَّاۤ اَنْ تَقُوْلُوْا قَوْلًا مَّعْرُوْفًا۬ؕ-وَ لَا تَعْزِمُوْا عُقْدَةَ النِّكَاحِ حَتّٰى یَبْلُغَ الْكِتٰبُ اَجَلَهٗؕ-وَ اعْلَمُوْۤا اَنَّ اللّٰهَ یَعْلَمُ مَا فِیْۤ اَنْفُسِكُمْ فَاحْذَرُوْهُۚ-وَ اعْلَمُوْۤا اَنَّ اللّٰهَ غَفُوْرٌ حَلِیْمٌ۠

اور تم پر گناہ نہیں اس بات میں جو پردہ رکھ کر تم عورتوں کے نکاح کا پیام دو یا اپنے دل میں چھپا رکھو اللہ جانتا ہے کہ اب تم ان کی یاد کرو گے ہاں ان سے خفیہ وعدہ نہ کر رکھو مگر یہ کہ اتنی ہی بات کہو جو شرع میں معروف ہے اور نکاح کی گرہ پکی نہ کرو جب تک لکھا ہوا حکم اپنی میعاد کو نہ پہنچ لے اور جان لو کہ اللہ تمہارے دل کی جانتا ہے تو اس سے ڈرو اور جان لو کہ اللہ بخشنے والا حلم والا ہے۔

Aur tum par koi gunah nahi is baat mein ke tum (iddat ke doran) ishare kinaye mein un aurton ko nikah ka paigham do ya apne dil mein (nikah ki khwahish) chupaye rakho. Allah ko maloom hai ke tum unka zikr karoge, lekin un se khufia waada na karo siwaye iske ke dastoor ke mutabiq koi bhali baat keh do. Aur nikah ka pukhta irada (aqd) us waqt tak na karo jab tak ke muqarrara muddat (iddat) poori na ho jaye. Aur jaan lo ke Allah tumhare dilon ki baat jaanta hai, pas us se darte raho, aur jaan lo ke Allah bada bakhshne wala aur burdbaar hai.

And there is no blame upon you for that to which you make indirect allusion concerning a proposal to women or for what you conceal within yourselves. Allah knows that you will remember them, but do not make a promise to them secretly except that you say a customary word. And do not determine on the tie of marriage until the written period reaches its end. And know that Allah knows what is within yourselves, so beware of Him. And know that Allah is Forgiving and Forbearing.

Tafseer Surah Al-Baqarah: Ayat 233 to 235

In ayaat mein Allah Ta'ala ne khandani nizam, bachon ki parvarish aur bewa auraton ke ehkaam nihayat hikmat ke saath bayan farmaye hain.

Ayat 233: Bachon ko Doodh Pilane ke Masail aur Huqooq

Talaq ke bayan ke baad ye sawal samne aata hai ke agar mutallaqa aurat ki god mein sher-khwar (doodh peeta) bacha ho to us ki parvarish ka kya tariqa hoga? Is liye yahan bacha ki parvarish ke mutalliq maa baap par jo ahkam hain wo bayan kiye gaye hain.
Aayat ka khulasa aur is ki wazahat:

Doodh pilane ki muddat: 

Maa ko chahiye ke wo apne bachay ko mukammal 2 saal doodh pilaye, agar wo muddat poori karni chahein. Do saal ke baad bachay ko doodh pilana najayez hota hai.

Baap ki zimmedari:

 Bachay ki maa ka khana aur kapra (naan-o-nafqa) baap ke zimme hai, bhale hi unka talluq khatam ho chuka ho, lekin ye sab "maroof" (hasb-e-taufiq) hona chahiye.

Bachay ka nuqsan na ho: 

Maa ko us ki aulad ki wajah se takleef na di jaye aur na baap ko us ki aulad se takleef di jaye. Maa ko majboor na kiya jaye aur baap par us ki taqat se zyada bojh na dala jaye. Na maa bachay ki nigrani mein kotahi kare aur na baap maa se bacha cheen kar usay dukh pahunchaye.

Doodh churwana:

 Agar maa-baap aapsi mashware aur razamandi se 2 saal se pehle doodh churwana chahein, to is mein koi gunah nahi.

Doodh pilane wali (Nurse): 

Agar wo miyan biwi bahami mashware se kisi aur se bachay ko doodh pilwana chahein to is mein bhi koi harj nahi, bashart-e-ke doodh pilane wali aurat ko us ki ujrat sahi tariqe se ada ki jaye.
Bachay ko doodh pilane ke mutalliq chand ahem ahkam:
Maa par apne bachay ko doodh pilana wajib hai agar baap kisi aur ko ujrat par na rakh sakta ho ya bacha kisi aur ka doodh qabool na kare.
Doodh pilane mein do saal poore karna lazim nahi, agar bacha ko zarurat na rahe to pehle bhi churaya ja sakta hai.

Bacha ki parvarish aur doodh pilwane ka kharch uthana baap par wajib hai.

Shohar apni biwi ko doodh pilane ke liye majboor nahi kar sakta aur na aurat shohar se iski ujrat le sakti hai jab tak wo us ke nikah ya iddat mein ho.

Iddat guzarne ke baad aurat bacha ko doodh pilane ki ujrat le sakti hai.

Bacche ka nasab baap ki taraf shumar hota hai. Agar baap Syed ho to bacha bhi Syed shumar hoga.

Agar baap fot ho gaya ho to jo zimmedariyan baap par thi, wo ab us ke qaim-maqam (waris) par hongi.

Ayat 234: Bewa (Widow) ki Iddat ke Ehkaam

Is ayat mein shohar ki wafat ke baad biwi ki iddat ka bayan hai.
Iddat ki muddat: Shohar ke intiqal ke baad biwi ki iddat 4 mahine 10 din hai. Agar intiqal chand ki pehli ko na hua ho to 130 din poore kiye jayenge.

Har umer ke liye lazim:

 Ye iddat har umer ki aurat par lazim hai, khwah wo jawan ho, burhi ho ya kam umer ho. Is mein ruksati hui ho ya na hui ho, dono surton mein iddat lazmi hai.

Hamila aurat (Pregnant):

 Hamila aurat ki iddat bacha janna (delivery) hai.

Pabandi aur Sog:

 Wafat ki iddat guzarne wali aurat na ghar se bahar nikal sakti hai aur na banao-singhaar kar sakti hai (zeenat, rishmi kapre aur khushbu mana hain). Albatta, Rajai Talaq (jis mein ruju ho sakta ho) ki iddat mein banao-singhaar karna jaiz hai.

Ikhtiyar: 

Iddat poori hone ke baad auraton ko apne muamlat ka faisla karne ka mukammal ikhtiyar hai aur wo shari'at ke mutabiq dobara nikah kar sakti hain.

Ayat 235: Iddat ke dauran Nikah ka Paigham

Is ayat mein iddat-e-wafat guzarne wali aurat se nikah ki khwahish ke mutalliq hidayat hain.

Ishara-o-Kinaya:

 Iddat ke dauran khula paigham dena ya nikah ka wada karna Haram hai. Lekin parde ke sath ishara dena (maslan: "Aap bohot nek khatoon hain") ya dil mein khwahish rakhna gunah nahi.

Khufiya Wada:

 Iddat ke dauran chup kar nikah ka wada ya "khufiya engagement" karna sakht mana hai.

Nikah ka Waqt:

 Jab tak iddat ki muddat poori na ho jaye, tab tak Nikah ka aqad (contract) bandhna jayez nahi.

Ahem Masla:

 Doran-e-iddat nikah haram hai aur jo isay halal samjhe us ka iman khatre mein hota hai.

Tafsir of Surah Al-Baqarah: Verses 233 to 235(English)

In these verses, Allah Almighty has outlined the family system, the upbringing of children, and the regulations for widows with immense wisdom.

Verse 233: Issues and Rights Regarding Breastfeeding

After the mention of divorce, the question naturally arises: if a divorced woman is nursing an infant, what is the procedure for the child's upbringing? Therefore, the duties of parents regarding the care of the child are explained here.

Summary and Explanation of the Verse:

Duration of Breastfeeding:

 Mothers should breastfeed their children for two complete years if they wish to complete the term. Breastfeeding a child after two years is not permissible.

Responsibility of the Father: 

Providing food and clothing (maintenance) for the mother is the father’s responsibility, even if their relationship has ended. This must be done according to his means (Maroof).

Protection from Harm:

 Neither the mother nor the father should be harmed on account of the child. A mother should not be forced to nurse if she is not required to, and a father should not be burdened beyond his capacity. The mother must not neglect the child, and the father must not cause her grief by snatching the child away.

Weaning: 

If the parents decide by mutual consent and consultation to wean the child before two years, there is no sin upon them.

Wet Nurse:

 If the parents agree to hire a wet nurse, it is permissible as long as her wages are paid fairly and according to custom.

Key Rulings Regarding Breastfeeding:

It is obligatory for a mother to nurse her child if the father cannot afford a wet nurse or if the child refuses any other milk.

Completing the full two years is not mandatory; if the child no longer needs it, they can be weaned earlier.

The father is legally responsible for the expenses of the child's upbringing and nursing.

A husband cannot force his wife to nurse, and a wife cannot demand wages for nursing while she is still in his marriage or observing the Iddat (waiting period).

After the Iddat expires, the woman is entitled to demand wages for breastfeeding the child.

A child’s lineage is traced through the father. If the father is a Syed, the child is also considered a Syed.

If the father passes away, the responsibilities fall upon his heirs (guardians).

Verse 234: The Waiting Period (Iddat) for Widows

This verse explains the waiting period for a woman after her husband's death.

Duration of Iddat:

 The Iddat for a widow is 4 months and 10 days. If the husband passed away on a date other than the 1st of the lunar month, she must complete 130 days.

Compulsory for All: 

This period is mandatory for every woman, regardless of age—whether she is young, old, or a minor. It applies whether the marriage was consummated or not.

Pregnant Women:

 For a pregnant woman, the Iddat ends upon the birth of the child.

Restrictions and Mourning: 

A woman observing Iddat for her husband’s death cannot leave the house without a valid reason and must refrain from adornment (jewelry, silk clothes, and perfume are prohibited). However, in the case of a Revocable Divorce (Rajai Talaq), adornment is permissible.

Autonomy:

 Once the period is complete, women have the full right to decide for themselves and can remarry according to Islamic law.

Verse 235: Marriage Proposals During Iddat

This verse provides guidance regarding marriage intentions for women currently observing the waiting period.

Hints and Indirectness:

 It is Haram (forbidden) to give a clear marriage proposal or make a formal promise of marriage during the Iddat. However, giving a subtle hint (e.g., "You are a very pious woman") or keeping the intention in one's heart is not a sin.

Secret Promises:

 Making secret marriage vows or "hidden engagements" during Iddat is strictly prohibited.

Timing of Marriage: 

The marriage contract (Nikah) cannot be finalized until the prescribed waiting period is completed.

Crucial Point: 

Finalizing a marriage during the Iddat is forbidden, and treating it as permissible is a serious matter of faith.

Key Points

Ayat 233: Bachon ki Parwarish aur Dudh Pilana

Dudh Pilane ki Muddat:

Is ayat mein Allah Ta'ala ne wazeh kar diya hai ke maon ko chahiye ke wo apne bachon ko poore do saal tak dudh pilayen (agar wo muddat poori karna chahen). Yahan Allah ne 'Aulad' ka lafz istemal kiya hai, na beta kaha na beti. Phir bhi pata nahi ye concept kahan se aaya ke beta haq-dar zyada hai ya beti kam? Kuch log kehte hain sawa do saal pilana chahiye, ye sab apni taraf se banai hui baatein hain jinka Quran-o-Sunnat se koi talluq nahi. Is ayat se saabit hai ke beta ho ya beti, dono ke huqooq barabar hain aur Allah ne yahan barabri ka hukam diya hai. Is se wazeh hai ke gender ki bunyaad par koi farq nahi hona chahiye, sab ka apna muqam aur haq hai.

Baap ki Zimmedari:

Bachon ki maan ka khana aur kapra (naan-o-nafqa) bhale tareeqe se dena baap ki zimmedari hai. Islam kisi par sakhti nahi karta aur hamesha narmi ka hukam deta hai. Maa ko takleef na dene ka matlab ye bhi hai ke agar bachon ko dudh ki zaroorat nahi to shohar zabardasti biwi ko majboor na kare. Delivery ke baad khwaateen kafi mushkilat face karti hain, lihaza husband ko chahiye ke support kare, pareshan na kare.

Insaaf aur Bahami Tawoon:

Isi tarah baap ko bhi pareshan na kiya jaye. Beshak bacha ki har zaroorat poori karna baap ka farz hai, lekin us par itna bojh na dala jaye jo wo bardasht na kar sake. Biwi ko hamesha wahi khwahish karni chahiye jo shohar poori kar sake, fazool mein use tension na di jaye. Maa ko bhi chahiye ke bachon ki parwarish mein kotahi na kare. Maine aise cases dekhe hain jahan 4 ya 5 betiyan ho jayein to maa roti hai aur bachon ko dudh nahi pilati ya takleef deti hai. Khudara aisa na karein! Beti to Rehmat hoti hai aur Nimat, Rehmat se bari nahi ho sakti. Asal sahara Allah aur Uske Mehboob ﷺ hain. Betiyan hi aksar ma-baap ka ehsas karti hain aur sasural ja kar bhi unhe nahi bhulti. Agar beta hi sab kuch hota to aaj 'Old Age Homes' na hote. Jo Allah ne diya us par shukr karein aur bachon ko Allah aur Uske Mehboob ﷺ ki mohabbat sikhayein.

Bachon ka Maa se Talluq:

Baap par bhi lazim hai ke bachon ko maa se alag na kare. Baaz log ladai ya talaq ki surat mein bachon ko maa se cheen lete hain. Ye maa aur bache dono par zulam hai. Ek maa kis tarah bache ko paida karti hai ye wahi janti hai, lihaza maa ki dil-bad-dua na lein aur na bache ka bachpan cheenein.

Dudh Churana:

Agar maa-baap aapsi mashware aur marzi se do saal se pehle dudh churana chahen, to is mein koi gunah nahi.

Ayat 234: Bewa ki Iddat aur Dusra Nikah

Muddat aur Azadi:

Jis aurat ke shohar ka intiqal ho jaye, us ki iddat 4 mahine aur 10 din hai. Iddat poori hone ke baad wo aurat apne liye maroof tareeqe se naye nikah ka faisla karne mein azad hai. Wo pehle jaisi ho jati hai, lekin afsos hamari society mein bewa ka rehna mushkil kar diya jata hai. Agar wo thora taiyar ho jaye ya ache kapre pehan le to use galat samjha jata hai. Shohar ke intiqal ke baad nikah khatam ho gaya, ab wo apni zindagi apni marzi se guzar sakti hai.

Bewa ka Maqam:

Bewao ki respect karni chahiye na ke unki majboori ka faida uthaya jaye. Kuch log kehte hain ke badi umr ki bewa ko nikah nahi karna chahiye, jabke Islam mein aisi koi pabandi nahi. Har umr mein ek ache partner ki zaroorat rehti hai. Haan, jo aurat apne bachon ki khatir nikah na kare (is darr se ke naya shohar bachon ko accept karega ya nahi), to uska ajar ye hai ke wo Jannat mein Huzoor ﷺ ke sath hogi. Jab Huzoor ﷺ puchenge ke ye kaun hain, to bataya jayega ke ye wo khwaateen hain jinhone bachon ki khatir apna nikah qurban kiya.

Ayat 235: Iddat mein Nikah ka Paigam aur Sunnat-e-Rasool ﷺ

Ahkam:

Iddat ke doran nikah ka irada dil mein rakhna ya sirf ishare kinaye mein baat karne mein gunah nahi, lekin mukkamal nikah ya khufiya waada mana hai. Nikah ka pakka irada iddat khatam hone ke baad hi karna chahiye.

Bewa se Nikah ka Sawab:

Bewa se nikah karna bohot sawab ka kaam hai kyunke aap kisi ki kafalat ka zimma lete hain. Hamari society mein log kehte hain ke 4 shadiyan Sunnat hain, lekin ye bhool jate hain ke Huzoor ﷺ ne kitni shadiyan bewao se ki thin. Aaj koi kunwara larka bewa se shadi nahi karta. Agar koi dusri shadi sirf apni khwahish ke liye kar raha hai to us par Sunnat ka sawab nahi milta, kyunke amal ka daromadar niyat par hai. Agar niyat saaf hai aur aap bewa se shadi kar rahe hain, to uske bachon ko bhi dil se apni aulad samajh kar accept karein. Kuch log shadi kar lete hain magar bachon ko accept nahi karte, ye zulam hai. Yateem ki kafalat karne wala kabhi khali nahi rehta. Agar har koi Islam ke mutabiq amal kare, to koi aurat dusre nikah se na dare aur na koi bacha yateem rahe.

Key Points (English)

Verse 233: Childcare and Nursing

The Duration of Nursing:

In this verse, Allah has clearly stated that mothers should breastfeed their children for two complete years (for those who desire to complete the term). It is significant that Allah used the word 'Children' (Aulad), making no distinction between a son or a daughter. It is baffling where the social concept originated that a son has more rights or a daughter has fewer. Some claim the duration should be two and a quarter years; these are self-made notions with no basis in the Quran or Sunnah. This verse proves that the rights of sons and daughters are equal. Allah has commanded equality here, making it clear that there should be no discrimination based on gender—everyone has their own status and rights.

The Father’s Responsibility:

The responsibility for providing food and clothing (maintenance/naan-o-nafqa) for the mother of the children in a reasonable manner lies with the father. Islam does not impose hardship on anyone and always commands kindness. "Not causing the mother hardship" also means that if a child no longer needs nursing, the husband should not force the wife. Women face many difficulties after childbirth; therefore, the husband should be supportive rather than a source of stress.

Justice and Mutual Cooperation:

Similarly, the father should not be overburdened. While it is the father's duty to fulfill the child's needs, he should not be pressured beyond his capacity. A wife should only seek what her husband can afford, avoiding unnecessary demands that cause him tension. Mothers, too, must not neglect the upbringing of their children. I have seen cases where a mother cries after having four or five daughters and refuses to nurse or care for them properly. For God's sake, do not do this! A daughter is a Rehmat (Blessing), and a 'Nimat' (Bounty) can never be greater than a 'Rehmat.' Our true support is Allah and His Beloved ﷺ. It is often the daughters who remain deeply empathetic toward their parents, never forgetting them even after moving to their in-laws' homes. If sons were the only source of support, 'Old Age Homes' wouldn't exist today. Be grateful for what Allah has given and instill the love of Allah and His Messenger ﷺ in your children.

The Child’s Bond with the Mother:

It is also mandatory for the father not to separate the children from the mother. Some people, in cases of dispute or divorce, snatch children away from the mother. This is an act of tyranny against both the mother and the child. Only a mother knows the pain and sacrifice of bringing a child into this world; do not invite the mother’s silent cries of pain, and do not rob a child of their childhood.

Weaning:

If both parents decide by mutual consent and consultation to wean the child before the two-year mark, there is no sin upon them.

Verse 234: The Iddah of a Widow and Remarriage

Duration and Freedom:

The waiting period (Iddah) for a woman whose husband passes away is four months and ten days. After completing this period, she is free to decide for her future and marriage in a recognized, honorable manner. She returns to her original status of freedom, but unfortunately, our society makes it difficult for widows to live peacefully. If she dresses well or grooms herself, she is judged. Once the husband passes away, the previous marriage contract ends; she is free to live her life as she chooses.

The Status of a Widow:

Widows should be respected, and their vulnerability should never be exploited. Some argue that an older widow should not remarry, but Islam places no such restriction. The need for a good partner exists at every stage of life. Furthermore, for a woman who chooses not to remarry solely for the sake of her children (fearing a new husband might not accept them), her reward is that she will be with the Prophet ﷺ in Paradise. When the Prophet ﷺ asks who these women are, it will be said that these are the women who sacrificed their own marriage for the sake of their children.

Verse 235: Marriage Proposals during Iddah and the Sunnah of the Prophet ﷺ

Guidelines:

During the Iddah (waiting period), there is no sin in keeping a marriage intention in one’s heart or making a subtle hint, but a formal marriage contract or secret promises are forbidden. A firm intention of marriage should only be enacted after the Iddah is complete.

The Reward of Marrying a Widow:

Marrying a widow is an act of great virtue because you are taking responsibility for someone’s guardianship. In our society, people often cite that four marriages are Sunnah, yet they forget how many widows the Prophet ﷺ married. Today, few young men choose to marry a widow. If someone remarries solely for personal desire, they cannot claim the spiritual reward of Sunnah, as actions are judged by intentions. If the intention is pure and you marry a widow, you must accept her children as your own with all your heart. Marrying the mother but rejecting her children is a great injustice. Those who care for orphans are never left empty-handed by Allah. If everyone acted according to Islam, no woman would fear remarriage, and no child would be left truly orphaned.

Dill ki Baat: Aik Mukhlisana Paigam

Asal Deen sirf namaz-roze tak mahdood nahi, balki ye hai ke hum Allah ki makhlooq aur unke huqooq ke sath kaisa salook karte hain. Jab hum "beta aur beti" mein farq karte hain, to hum darasal Allah ki di hui taqseem par sawal uthate hain.

Beti Allah ki Rehmat hai:

Log samajhte hain beta budhape ka sahara banega, magar sahara sirf Allah ki zat hai. Betiyan to wo phool hain jo paraye ghar ja kar bhi apne maa-baap ki khushbu nahi bhulti. To aaj se beta aur beti ka farq khatam karein. Betiyon ko bhi khud support karein, un ko mentally aur financially independent karein, phir un ki shadi karein. Kam umar se hi un par shadi ka pressure na banayein. Har larki ko financially independent hona chahiye aur larkiyan bhi yaad rakhein ke aap kamzor nahi hain, aap bohot bahadur hain. Allah ne aap ko bahadur banaya hai tabhi aap ek bache ko janam de sakti hain. Agar aap ko inspiration chahiye to Hazrat Khadija (R.A) ko parhein, Hazrat Fatima (R.A) ko parhein, Hazrat Maryam (A.S) ko parhein. Jitni bhi nekh khawateen hain sab ko parhein, phir aap ko apni taqat ka ilam ho jayega.

Maa ka Maqam:

Maa ka bacha paida karna aur use dhood pilana koi choti qurbani nahi. Jo mard apni biwi ko is mushkil waqt mein support nahi karte ya talaq ke baad bacha cheen kar maa ko tarpatay hain, wo shariyat ki rooh ko nahi samajhte. Husband aur biwi ko zindagi ka har mor par ek dusre ko support karna chahiye aur sath dena chahiye, khas taur par bachon ki parwarish mein. Log kehte hain parwarish to maa karti hai to ye sirf maa ki zimmedari aur farz hai, magar aisa nahi hai. Baap ki bhi barabari ki zimmedari hai kyunke bacha dono ne mil kar paida kiya hai, to parwarish bhi dono karein. Ek baat yaad rakhein ke Allah ne husband aur wife ko ek dusre ko pura karne ke liye banaya hai, yani har kaam dono mil kar karein.

Bewaon ka Sahara:

Hamara muashra bewaon ke liye sakht kyun hai? Kyun hum unke dobara ghar basane ko bura samajhte hain? Sunnat ka naam lena asan hai, magar Sunnat par amal karte hue kisi bewa aur uske bachon ko dil se apnana asal mardangi hai. To aaj se kisi bewa ke baare mein galat baatein nahi karni aur un par koi fazool ki bandish nahi lagani hai. Larko ko chahiye ke bewao se shadi karein aur agar unke bache hon to un ki bhi dekh-bhal karein. Maine kafi ghar dekhe hain jahan mard ka bhi dusra bacha hota hai aur jab wo nikah karta hai to larki ka bhi bacha hota hai, mard apna bacha to palwata hai lekin biwi ke bache ko nahi palta, to aisa nahi karna chahiye.

Nateeja (Conclusion):

Agar hum sirf itna kar lein ke bachon ko bachpan se hi "Dunya" ke bajaye Allah aur Uske Mehboob ﷺ ki sachi mohabbat sikhayein, to na kabhi kisi maa ki ankh mein aansu ayenge aur na koi baap budhape mein akela hoga. Sab kuch niyat aur tarbiyat ka khel hai. To dekhein, maa-baap ne jo tarbiyat ki wo apne hisab se achi ki hai, lekin aap ne bhi waqt ke sath khud ko badalna hai positive way mein. Jo baatein maa-baap nahi seekha sake, wo khud dekhein aur apne nazariye ko badlein. Sari zindagi koshish karein ke khud ko behtar kaise banaya jaye.

From the Heart: A Sincere Message

True religion is not limited only to prayers and fasting; rather, it is about how we treat Allah’s creation and fulfill their rights. When we discriminate between a "son and a daughter," we are, in reality, questioning the distribution ordained by Allah.

Daughters are Allah’s Mercy:

People think a son will be the support for old age, but the only true support is the Being of Allah. Daughters are like those flowers that do not forget the fragrance of their parents even after moving to another home. So, from today, end the distinction between a son and a daughter. Support your daughters yourselves; make them mentally and financially independent, and then marry them off. Do not put pressure on them for marriage from a young age. Every girl should be financially independent, and girls must also remember that you are not weak—you are very brave. Allah has made you so brave that you can give birth to a child. If you need inspiration, read about Hazrat Khadija (R.A), read about Hazrat Fatima (R.A), and read about Hazrat Maryam (A.S). Read about all the noble women; only then will you realize your true strength.

The Status of a Mother:

A mother giving birth to a child and nursing them is no small sacrifice. Men who do not support their wives during this difficult time, or who snatch the child away after divorce to make the mother suffer, do not understand the soul of Sharia. A husband and wife should support each other at every turn of life and stand together, especially in the upbringing of children. People say that upbringing is only the mother’s job and it is only her responsibility and duty, but it is not so. The father has an equal responsibility because both created the child together, so both should raise the child together. Remember one thing: Allah has made the husband and wife to complete one another, meaning every task should be done together.

Support for Widows:

Why is our society so harsh toward widows? Why do we consider it bad for them to settle their homes again? It is easy to take the name of Sunnah, but true manhood lies in following the Sunnah by heart and accepting a widow and her children as your own. So, from today, do not say anything wrong about any widow and do not impose any useless restrictions on them. Men should marry widows and, if they have children, take care of them as well. I have seen many homes where a man has a child from a previous marriage and when he marries a woman who also has a child, the man provides for his own child but does not support the wife's child; this should not happen.

Conclusion:

If we simply ensure that from childhood we teach our children the true love of Allah and His Beloved ﷺ instead of "the world," then tears will never fall from a mother’s eyes, nor will a father ever be alone in old age. It is all a game of intention and upbringing. Look, the upbringing our parents provided was good according to their understanding, but you must also change yourself with time in a positive way. The things parents could not teach, observe them yourself and change your perspective. Spend your entire life striving to become a better version of yourself.

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Ans: Yes. After the Iddah of 4 months and 10 days, a widow is free to remarry. Islam encourages society to support widows in starting their lives anew.

Q4: Is the father responsible for expenses if the mother is breastfeeding?

Ans: Yes. The Quran states that the father must provide food and clothing for the mother in a fair manner during the nursing period.

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